Are you your careers worst enemy?

by Rich DeMatteo on November 10, 2009 · 8 comments

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I have beef with Rod Stewart

Today I found out that a lot can change in just one day.  Monday morning I could safely say that Rod Stewart and I were perfect buds.  However, after a few events yesterday, I’m not sure Rod and I are in ‘cahoots’ anymore.  While running a few errands on Monday, Rod Stewart’s, “Some Guys Have All The Luck”, made an appearance on my XM radio.  For some reason, the lyrics struck a pressure point in my HR brain, therefore Rod Stewart negative event #1 was born.  This picture here is Rod Stewart negative event #2 from yesterday.  Why Rod, why?

Here are the problem lyrics from, “Some Guys Have All The Luck”

Some guys have all the luck
Some guys have all the pain
Some guys get all the breaks
Some guys do nothing but complain

Sure, this song is about finding love, and obviously I don’t have a real problem with Mr. Stewart, but I do have a problem with the attitude of these lyrics.  How many people do you know that focus most of their attention on other people, become jealous with what others have, and do nothing but complain about their own situation?  More than a handful, right?  Thought so.  Well, these lyrics hit a specific pressure point for me in that many people come to me with an overall shitty attitude about their current job, their lack of a job, or even the attitudes they have about their career search.  Also popular is for people to blame their own career misfortune on their coworkers, managers, or interviewers.  Time for an attitude adjustment.

When something isn’t right, fix it and move on

Stop complaining.  Build a positive attitude.  Make yourself a priority.  When it comes to your career, it truly is what you make of it.  Complaining constantly about hating your job, your shitty boss, or your lack of a job makes everything much worse.  Look for the positives in your situation, your skill set, or the opportunities that you can build for yourself.  Creating a more positive outlook eventually leads to a positive situation.  Here is some simple math:

A positive + A positive = A positive

Being around a negative person is an awful time.  Negativity is like a mustard stain on a white shirt.  Not only is it easy to notice, but it doesn’t look great in an interview.  The second you start building positivity, the closer you are to feeling better about yourself and/or finding a better opportunity for your career.

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8 comments
Rich DeMatteo
Rich DeMatteo

Hey Elisa , definitely. People use scapegoats in every situation and it's not the way to go. Positivity won't lead to greener pastures per say, but it does present opportunities to get there. Let's say I'm a bartender and want to be a lawyer (one of my favorite shows "Its Always Sunny in Philadelphia" portrays this exact comparison in Charlie Day from the show) I can't just walk into court and say I'm a lawyer. The positive attitude will push me to go to law school, hit the books, and eventually become a lawyer. Let positivity be the start, and the end results will make you happy! Thanks!

Elisa
Elisa

Rich, I think you bring up a great point. In more than just our careers we tend to find as many scapegoats as possible as to why we are not achieving the success we want. Instead of taking the time to look at what the consistent item is in each part of the problem...which in general is ourselves. I would say, however, there is a certain amount of realism that must be applied to a optimistic attitude. For example, if I wanted to be a lawyer but had no law degree no amount of "positive thinking" is going to magically get me a law degree. Being positive and thus WORKING to get a law degree will do it, but purely positive thoughts alone will not a happy career/love/life make. Luck and breaks are nothing if you are not equipped to make the most of them.

Jenny
Jenny

Man, I thought it was ol' Maggie May that was givin' ya beef with Rod.

Kristi Daeda
Kristi Daeda

Absolutely, Rich. You get what you expect. You expect lemons, that's what life will deal you. Some people need your brand of motivation. ;)

Rich DeMatteo
Rich DeMatteo

I forgot to add Maggie May to my list. Thanks for reminding me!

Rich DeMatteo
Rich DeMatteo

Hey Kristi - thanks for your comment! Positivity leads to positive experiences!

Rich DeMatteo
Rich DeMatteo

Thanks for commenting, Marty. How can one succeed when they place absolutely everyone above them. One must be selfish at times. Not overly, but there are surely times when selfish is a necessity.